Welcome Home, Stephanie..
My daughter decided to move back home to Illinois to help me out. I think its because she is worried about me. She decided this after she visited here for a few weeks last summer. I must have really looked horrible 😦
Perhaps seeing Lupus and it’s effects first-hand vs reading my posts about it on facebook had something to do with it. While I do post a lot about whats going on, I really make an effort to try not to post so much that I become a chronic complainer. I tend to post mostly about new occurrences and not about stuff that may happen often or all the time. (Ex vomiting…I may make a post once in a blue moon vs the reality of it which is a few times a week. I figure no one really wants to hear about me tossing my cookies every couple of days due to the Methotrexate- YUCK!)
But, its hard NOT to notice something like that when you are in the same house. Lupus, up close and personal…full disclosure. It wont be as easy to “hide” what I might not want her to know because I dont want for her to worry unnecessarily. On facebook, I could just chose not to talk about it or word it in a way that wasnt so scary.
So far she has started to clean things, which the apartment really needs because it is often difficult for me to do a decent job at it due to the RA and the Lupus. I try to save most of my energy for work so usually by the time I get home, I am either too tired or in too much pain for scrubbing things down, etc. That alone will be a big help.
She is also going to try to get a job to help out a little that way also. Another good thing.
One of the things I may have to get used to though, is her having friends over much more than I had company over before. When I feel horrible, I may not feel like having people over, etc.. She’s an adult now, and where she is helping out, she should be able to have guests over type thing. Especially worried about overnight guests or guests who stay late into the night. Hopefully we can figure something out about this so it doesnt get to be “too much” for either of us and before it becomes a problem. I might be worrying for nothing. We’ll see and time will tell for that.
Its great to see her again. I missed her while she was gone. Hopefully, things work out and she doesnt get burned out or annoyed with “helping” much more than she may have anticipated, etc…